Frequently Asked Questions
1. How do you control the kids?
2. How many kids does Eagle Rock currently house?
Currently we have 12.
See our Projects Underway page for our vision to expand this capacity.
See our Projects Underway page for our vision to expand this capacity.
3. Why did you get into this?
4. Is it rewarding?
It is very rewarding to see a young man come to stay at Eagle Rock, who has been badly abused or has a low self esteem, and watch his life change right before your eyes. The feeling is priceless.
5. What is your success rate?
100%. You may ask how I can say that our success rate is so high. Our main purpose in ministry is to give these boys an opportunity to live as close to a normal life as possible. What they do with that opportunity is their choice. Every resident that comes to Eagle Rock gets the same opportunities. We place the boys in a Christian school. If they are behind academically, we provide individualized tutoring to bring them up to their level. If they are interested in sports, we make sure they are given the same chances other boys are given. They are involved in numerous extracurricular activities to provide a well-rounded environment. We intercept the path of these young men, who are headed for a life of trouble. We nurture them in a Christian environment to equip them to make wise decisions as adults.
6. What is your advice to parents of children who are ADHD?
Don’t over react. Establish consistent easy to manage schedules and routines. You should also watch what they eat. Just because a child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder doesn’t mean that he/she is a problem child. It takes lots of work and love. Medication should be a last resort. You can’t deal with all the problems with one solution. It takes a little work at a time, like chipping away at a diamond.
7. How do you get your kids to take responsibility?
Don’t be an enabler. Hold them accountable for their actions. Choose your battles wisely. You can’t fight every little thing. Be firm about what is important. You can control the environment but not the child. If you try to control the child, you will end up in a power struggle and that means you have lost the battle.
8. What is the most difficult part of what you do?
Finding good people willing to do such hard work. It is easy to administrate but hard to duplicate. I’ve tried to duplicate myself in the employees at Eagle Rock. It is hard to wrap up 20 years of experience into 6 weeks of training. I try to find people who are naturally inclined to compassion, patience, and willing to go the extra mile in the lives of these young men.
9. What does your wife Diana think about this ministry?
She is very supportive, but she knows this is not her calling. She is involved as much as she wants to be, which does not include the day to day operations of Eagle Rock. She has her own career, hobbies, and family responsibilities.
10. What is the saddest thing you have ever seen?
I can think of several very sad situations I have seen through the years. Once watched a kid bury his mother and he said he didn’t remember anything good about her. Another young boy, upon arriving at Eagle Rock, was promptly told by his step dad, “we may as well be having your funeral because we are finished with you and won’t ever have to see you again.” But I guess one of the saddest things I see happen on a regular basis is seeing kids waiting by the window for their parents on Christmas day, and they never come. Once watched a boy run down the road chasing a car and yelling for them to stop because he thought it looked like his parents car. It turned out not to be his parents, and the young man turned around and slowly made his way back to the house.
